ok, so this weekend has infinitely more complicated my life. For starters i started seeing this girl, so thats always a huge thing, and then one of my good friends is leaving for the army, so that said, he had a little cook out and a party later at my place. An old high school friend came over and was invited to the cook out and then he showed up to the party with like three people, who i have not talked to in like two years, and the same goes for most of the people at the party as well as for the person who we threw the party for (the one leaving for the army) So anyways, found out later, this dumb ass kid who we invited, decided it was a good idea to have them over, and he tried saying that some one invited them, but we kept saying who, then he stormed out when he realized how retarded he sounded, and talked shit about me in my drive way with the kids. So, why did i tell them to leave, 1: the kid who is leaving as well as myself have not talked to or been around the kids who showed up, and i myself or the other kid were to die tomorrow, they wouldn't give it any more thought than, huh, weird. So they were all pissed that i made them leave. 2: I have some real qualms with people showing up to a place without being invited, that really pissed me off to no end. So they got there and i was like so you have to leave you not invited, you could have just called me, and the one kid decided he would be smart and say well can i call you know, at which point i wanted to drop kick him. Anyways, that ordeal is going to have some definite repercussions, but i don't feel i did wrong, as they weren't invited to a private smaller party for a good friend who is leaving really soon, and all they were looking for was a place to get all messed up and for the most part could care less that he's leaving. So, i could really care less that i told off some jackass people who i haven't talked to or been around for two years after high school and one of them i call every so often and not only does he not pick up his phone, but he also doesn't call me back, so i guess that shows how much he cares. Ok, so i'm sorry it was so wordy, but i just have a really big conscious sometimes, so perspective helps, thanks for any input.
I've thrown parties and have had to deal with this same issue -- the self invitation -- there are people who just need a place to get drunk and lay low for the night without being commited to the "cause" of the party, if I can express myself like that. That's complete egoism and disrespect.
edijis, thanks for the support. Those people used to be my friends, (the ones who just showed up) and they hadn't talked to me or called me in forever and it wasn't just a party, there was a purpose behind it. But yeah, thanks, thats pretty much what i was thinking, and i just needed some reassurance, because i just felt kinda guilty and wasn't completely sure if i was in the wrong or not, so thanks.
thanks again guys, i know it might seem kinda dumb i'm even second guessing myself but, you know, sometimes you just need some one else's opinion. But yeah, not worrying about it anymore, thanks.
