We're not a couple, thanks: The saga of geek love

We're not a couple, thanks -OR- How's your love life?

my post above was not intended to cause offence. it was stated purely based on my own experiences and that of friends i have. appearance does mean quite a bit when it comes to connecting with someone initially. this is particularly true when you do not have any means to socially know the person beforehand. all the women i have gone out with (there had been quite a few) and most of my female friends (whom i have many) would be considered attractive by all sense of the imagination. none of them are into computers as a hobby beyond the realm of work.
while this is not the mandate to generalise, the very few women i have known to have an interest in computing as a pastime are not considered attractive at a physical level. it doesn't make them bad people. they are all in relationship. they are all 'nice' people too but just not attractive in a 'superficial' bodily sense.
i agree with anyone who says personality comes above appearance and that is valid for me too but there must be that physical sexual chemistry there which has to be based on appearance.
 
We're not a couple, thanks -OR- How's your love life?

all right summed up, you meet a girl you like, she likes you, personalities match, parents like each other, you get married, have kids, you die happy
 
We're not a couple, thanks -OR- How's your love life?

These are interesting points, I agree with the initial attraction thing myself, you do have a better chance of meeting these days if you're both attractive, but I wouldn't necessarily hold it above personality at all, it's just a very big bonus. As for the line of work relating to the level of attractiveness, though it shouldn't make any sense at all in my experience too all the women I've seen have fit into the physically unattractive catagory, I by no means hold this against them and I have no doubt there are numerous "hott" women who work with computers out there, just none I've seen. Probably just becasue women naturally have different interests and today although the barriers to work are virtually non-existant in legal terms, some professions are just concidered to be a "mans job" and women might disregard the idea or are incouraged to move in another direction, there could be tons of reasons. Interesting topic.
 
Exfoliate said:
These are interesting points, I agree with the initial attraction thing myself, you do have a better chance of meeting these days if you're both attractive, but I wouldn't necessarily hold it above personality at all, it's just a very big bonus. As for the line of work relating to the level of attractiveness, though it shouldn't make any sense at all in my experience too all the women I've seen have fit into the physically unattractive catagory, I by no means hold this against them and I have no doubt there are numerous "hott" women who work with computers out there, just none I've seen. Probably just becasue women naturally have different interests and today although the barriers to work are virtually non-existant in legal terms, some professions are just concidered to be a "mans job" and women might disregard the idea or are incouraged to move in another direction, there could be tons of reasons. Interesting topic.
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your points are pertinent and i totally agree. unfortunately computing does not seem to appeal to so called 'mainstream' attractive women. there could be many societal reasons for this. perhaps the hours, the nature of work or maybe, they might not like assiciating with geeky nerds - the perception of nerds as being uninteresting to anyone but fellow nerds - sadly still holds sway in many circles.
this poses the question, should we act in some way or other to attract attractive women to sciene related careers? whether we do or not there are a lot of extremely capable women (who might be attractive or not) who work in this field already and maybe they are much more talented to fill their roles than the mainstream beautifies who shine in public relations or arts promotion.
 
We're not a couple, thanks -OR- How's your love life?

Yeah really Matt, wonder what Nic and Do think of all this?
 
We're not a couple, thanks -OR- How's your love life?

I asked how many total females were here awhile back I think it was like 11, as for regulars 2, Nic and Do50.
 
A very large and discernable gap between them for sure. Probably a 20:1 ratio easily.

Anyway, while I'm moving some stuff over tomorrow, the gf will be stopping by and were looking at some jewelry...of a certain kind.
 
ninja fetus said:
that's not what you said last night :P :P :cool:
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*adjusts collar and sweats*
I dont know this guy...

Anyway, chemical pheramones can also affect the feeling where looks do not come into it much. That feeling where its somthing beyond IYKWIM.
 
In my experience physical attraction has nothing to do with relationships, but what it is certain to do is have you trying to fend off other guys like you wouldn't believe. Chances are if you're with an 'attractive' girl then there are at least 5 other guys also interested, which causes problems from the start, especially if the girl is also interested in them. You will end up spending so much time trying to get away from all the guys who want a piece of her (some can get violent too) that you'll have little to no time to spend with her and end up breaking up because of it.

In addition to that, physical attractiveness varies from person to person, as a matter of fact I'm not at all attracted to the generic woman that every guy wants, skinny, blonde, blue eyes, cute. Doesn't do it for me, way too perfect and chances are she's a girl who takes more pride in her appearance than her feelings. I dated a girl like that, she would never be seen in public with me because it would damage her image, she even said she was still single while being with me.

But as to the fact about attractive girls not working with computers, it's wrong, through college there were a lot of girls working with computers, some were really attractive to me, others were more of the generic type but still it applies. An office I used to work for had hundreds of female IT technicians, in fact I was the only guy there who was a qualified technician, same applies, they were all attractive in some way.
 
WWR said:
In my experience physical attraction has nothing to do with relationships, but what it is certain to do is have you trying to fend off other guys like you wouldn't believe.
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try telling that to my whole entire highschool's freshman and sophmore class! I'm totally serious here. The only people that were couples were just a crowd of beautiful peope. They didn't have relationships, just trophys. There were two maybe three couples I know of that actually had a serious relationship that weren't after eachother's pants. Out of slightly over 2,000 people. Sure there's people I don't know, and there may be some more true couples but no more than a handful.
 
We're not a couple, thanks -OR- How's your love life?

i think relationships with attractive women does work out if you are confident in your own self. this is nothing to do with other people thinking of you as attractive but having a positive self concept yourself. other guys are only noticed around a good looking girlfriend if you are not so confident yourself.

i am very sorry to hear about that girl who did not to be seen with you. frankly, you are better off without her. that is just pure arrogance. there are many attractive women out there who are not arrogant and i have known many of them.
 
We're not a couple, thanks -OR- How's your love life?

Otherwise known as bitches, but not always attractive.
 
I was not reffering to self-confidence. If you are with an 'attractive' girl then there are going to be others who are after her, and there is a slim chance that she will be somewhat interested in them (in the sense of what if she was with them instead) and that can lead to problems, regardless of how much confidence you have in yourself.
 
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